How to Do Stuff for Free – wikiHow

How to Do Stuff for Free

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The best things in life are free….

Steps

  1. Watch movies for free on the internet. Try http://www.onlinecinema.com.
  2. Get free music legally. Search MySpace for free downloads on band pages. Some band’s offer free music tracks if you sign up with their mailing list. Download podcasts. Listen to the radio.
  3. Join a band’s fan club and help promote them. They often offer free gig tickets in return for handing out flyers, etc. Try http://www.xtaster.co.uk or Google “street teams”.
  4. Get on the guest list of your favourite clubs. Get to know the owner, managers or bouncers if you visit there frequently.
  5. Meet and talk with several groups of people when you’re at a club or party. Someone may buy you a drink.
  6. Go to free local events like concerts and carnivals.
  7. Go to the beach on hot days if you live close by.
  8. Walk in the forest or park. Bring a book, your artwork or writing.
  9. Climb a mountain. Bring a picnic lunch.
  10. Go for a bike ride.
  11. Treasure hunt and collect things for nature crafts.
  12. Explore a cemetery.
  13. Invite friends or neighbors to your backyard to have a soda and play a game of cards.
  14. Visit with friends and neighbors just for a cup of tea and conversation.
  15. Invite friends or neighbors over in the evening for a glass of wine and conversation. Provide a small snack display.
  16. Sit quietly to watch the sunset or sunrise.
  17. Go star gazing.
  18. Look for shapes in the clouds.
  19. Go bird watching.
  20. Go to the library.

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How to Relieve Stress – wikiHow

How to Relieve Stress

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Stress. We all deal with it. Whether it be our jobs, family life, drama with friends, a relationship problem, or finances, stress is there. While a little stress is probably good for you, it’s the excess that does the harm. But there are ways of relieving it or destressing.

Steps

  1. Quick Relief Stress. Breathe, Smile, Visualize, Evaluate.#Take a deep breath. This is your first, most immediate defense against stress. If you can get in the habit of pausing and taking a nice, deep breath every time you feel stress beginning to take hold, you’ll have won half the battle just by preventing it from taking over.
  2. Communicate. Whether you talk to a friend or talk to yourself, getting it off your chest will help a lot. If you don’t feel like talking about it, write it down. Keep a journal and write down whatever it is that’s bothering you. Writing is a therapy of its own.
  3. Take a deep breath If you can get in the habit of pausing and taking a nice, deep breath every time you feel stress beginning to take hold, you’ll have won half the battle just by preventing it from taking over.
  4. Laugh. Rediscover your sense of humor by making fun of your situation. View it from your future self’s perspective, telling this story to a bunch of your friends over pizza and soda. Crack some jokes. Do your goofiest impression. Tickle a child that you love. Laughter, whether it’s yours or someone Else’s, is the best medicine–and it’s contagious!
  5. Get fit. Perhaps your health and appearance are stressing you out, but even if they’re not an issue, being physically fit can directly help relieve stress, which exists on both a mental and a physical level. Sometimes there’s nothing like a long run, an intense yoga session, or a fresh swim after a stressful day to help you feel relaxed and stress-free again. Also, exercise releases endorphins; a feel good hormone. Chocolate releases endorphins as well (just only in moderation)!
  6. Be organized. For the most part, stress arises from feeling overwhelmed. There’s just too much to do, and not enough time to do it. Being organized and getting your priorities straight can help you break responsibilities down into manageable pieces and focus on the things that really matter to you, rather than getting caught up in details and creating extra work for yourself–all of which leads to more stress.
  7. Soothe the senses. Light a scented candle that has a calming fragrance like lavender. Listen to your favorite, most relaxing music or, better yet, go somewhere that you can listen to wind rustle through trees or waves crash on the beach. Enjoy the scenery, whether you’re outdoors or viewing an art exhibit. Drink some warm tea or taste–really taste–some dark chocolate. Treat yourself by getting a massage or, if you want to be alone, take a bath (bubbles are recommended).
  8. Be aware of your choices; you always have a choice.
  9. Learn to say no; you cannot do everything you are asked.
  10. Learn how to delegate.
  11. Be thankful. It does wonders for your state of mind.
  12. If you need to apologize to someone, and it will not make the situation worse, find a way to do so. More importantly, learn to forgive, particularly to forgive yourself. Guilt adds pain to stress.
  13. Do nothing. That’s right, folks, do nothing at all. Close the door, open the window, have a seat, and take a little break from life. If your mind is racing, learn to meditate and just let that stress go.
  14. Listen to music. Listening to music does wonders and is a great way to relieve stress, if it is not something that will make you feel worse. Listen to good songs that get you in a happy mood; and just forget about your problem. Music is known to be a significant mood-changer and reliever of stress. Ocean sounds tend to simulate calmness and serenity so, listening to a sound machine while lying down could help.

Video

This video offers instruction in using guided imagery to relieve stress.

Tips

  • Note that not all stress reducing activities will work for all people. Experiment with different techniques to see what works for you.
  • Imagery meditation. Meditating, concentrating or just emptying your mind while viewing tranquil scenery, either real or in video clips can help your mind let go of anxiety filled thoughts.
  • Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)
  • Self hypnosis
  • Indian head massage
  • Walk in the rain
  • Dance to relieve stress
  • Relieving stress in the short term is a good idea, but resolving the underlying causes of stress is even better. If the same issues keep driving you up the wall time and time again, give some serious thought as to how they can be dealt with permanently. The following two examples illustrate the variety and usefulness of the self-help information which is available.
  • Rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT) teaches that it is not what happens to you, but what you believe about what happens to you that makes you stressed and depressed.(Ellis, 1975). You can do a lot to get rid of these feelings on your own by finding the irrational ideas which produce them, and debating with yourself until you have cast them out. Here is Ellis’s list of potential culprits:
    • I must be perfect in all respects in order to be worthwhile.
    • I must be loved and approved of by everyone who is important to me.
    • When people treat me unfairly, it is because they are bad people.
    • It is terrible when I am seriously frustrated, treated badly, or rejected.
    • Misery comes from outside forces which I can’t do very much to change.
    • If something is dangerous or fearful, I have to worry about it.
    • It is not easier to avoid life’s difficulties and responsibilities, face them.
    • Because things in my past controlled my life, they have to keep doing so now and in the future.
    • It is terrible when things do not work out exactly as I want them to.
    • I can be as happy as possible by just doing nothing and enjoying myself, taking life as it comes.
  • In addition to getting rid of negative beliefs, it is necessary to acquire a set of positive ones, such as the following widely quoted Desiderata,written by Max Ehrmann in the 1920s:
    • Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.
    • As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexatious to the spirit.
    • If you compare yourself with others,you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
    • Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism.
    • Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love, for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment, it is as perennial as the grass.
    • Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
    • Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
    • Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be. And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul. With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

Warnings

  • Be wary of escapism. Do not alleviate stress by doing something that’ll only make it worse in the long run (e.g. buying a new pair of expensive shoes when what’s stressing you is debt or taking someones problems into your own “hands.” ).
  • Don’t just suffer in silence.
    • Just as you would not hesitate to contact a physician for ongoing physical pain, you should not hesitate to contact a therapist for continuing mental pain.
    • A therapist is a professional problem solver, who can bring to bear all the insights of psychology to point out choices that you are not aware of.
    • Your physician may be able to prescribe medication to control anxiety and depression, or to help you to handle a particularly stressful situation.
    • Symptoms such as hearing voices that are not there, seeing things that are not there, or staying awake for several nights in a row, are signs of serious mental illness which require immediate psychiatric attention.
  • If you are feeling suicidal or feel like you might hurt yourself, get help immediately!
    • Call your local suicide prevention hotline, or the psychiatric hotline of a hospital in your area.
    • If you do not know where to call, your local police department will be able to provide you with assistance.

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Sources and Citations

Ellis, A., & Harper, R. (1975), A new guide to rational living. Upper Saddle River, NJ: Prentice-Hall.

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How to Focus – wikiHow

How to Focus

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The ability to focus is an essential skill for students of anything. It is paramount to academic/work related success.

Steps

  1. Decide that you are going to study and get down to business immediately. Do not think about anything else that is not study-related. If you are working on a computer, do not surf the Internet to play computer games or watch videos on YouTube. Avoid Facebook at all costs.
  2. Identify the reason why you cannot focus. Often it will be things that are simple to remove, for example Facebook, your cell phone, TV, music, the mess on your desktop, etc. But there may as well be psychological reasons for your lack of focus, which can be harder to identify and harder to remove. You can tell your school teacher or your parents about your problem. They will find ways to help you.
  3. Get rid of these elements that prevent you from focusing.
  4. Eat, drink, or use the bathroom BEFORE you start with work.
  5. Restrict internet use to relevant topics only (Wikipedia, wikiHow, Ask.com, online journals, etc. – no Facebook, MySpace, blogs or surfing) or better yet get yourself another browser. If you are using Google Chrome you might want to try the Stay Focused app, which restricts the time you can use on any webpage per day. Also delete all the easy access shortcuts, leaving only the one in the start menu> all programs.
  6. Study in a well lit area. Trying to read in the dark is not good for you.
  7. Don’t expect that the feeling of being focused will come automatically, just because you’ve done the above mentioned steps. One key to become focused is to like what you are doing, a feeling of wanting to know more about the subject. So if it’s not your favourite subject that you’re going to study, you will have to convince yourself that the subject is interesting. You may find it hard at first, but once you learn the value of investing interest in your studies the less you will have to force yourself to focus.
  8. Studies show that the average person focuses best when holding at 15 minutes after each 45 minutes of studying. So relax and don’t press yourself way too hard in the beginning.

Tips

  • Exercise often helps improve focus. A 20 minute jog doesn’t take very long and can work wonders.

Warnings

  • The inability to focus is not always a matter lack of motivation or laziness. Certain medical conditions can physically prevent someone from focusing (e.g. ADHD)
  • Even though medical conditions do exist that prevent people from focusing, don’t be too quick to diagnose yourself with ADHD just because you always seem to end up on Facebook before an exam, because in fact more people than you might think have problems focusing, for various other reasons.

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How to Overcome Boredom – wikiHow

How to Overcome Boredom

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Are you bored with your work, your relationship or your life in general? Boredom is a complex process. There are lots of reasons that one might be bored. The most common one is that you have no idea what to do. But other reasons might be you feel lazy or tired and just don’t want to do the things that are available for you to do. Maybe you have ideas of things you don’t feel you can do the things you want to do. also contributes to feeling bored. Boredom becomes a great concern when it results in procrastination, indecision and feeling listless and jaded. Here are some ideas on how to overcome boredom.

Steps

  1. Try to figure out why you are bored:
  • Are you doing something that you have done many times before? Try adding something new or doing it a different way. If that just doesn’t cut it, stop doing the same thing over and over again. Obviously, if repetitive tasks are a part of your occupation, then you may, unfortunately, have no choice but to stick it.
  • Are you feeling lazy, tired, or unmotivated? A nap can rejuvenate you and it can be surprising how much more motivated you can feel after a quick snooze. Alternatively, breathing in the fresh air outside for just ten minutes can freshen up your mindset, and the space and (maybe) sunshine can do wonders for your mood.
  • Are you rested yet still feeling lazy? Try to convince yourself to do just one small thing: something small or short in duration or just part of a task. Taking baby steps towards a goal can give you a sense of accomplishment that will beat any boredom.
  • Are you bored because you feel you can’t do the things you want to do? This can be a very irritating situation to be in, because the only thing stopping you from completing a task or having some fun is the lack of materials or perhaps expertise. Try to think of alternative ways to do what you want to do, working with what you have available.
  • Are you bored because you can’t think of anything to do? Do something physically or socially active. Doing some exercise can get you into a better frame of mind, as well as the added bonus of keeping you in shape. Social activity (i.e. talking to someone) fulfils one of our basic human needs. Face-to-face contact is, if possible, much better than talking over the phone or Facebook.
  • Try to do something totally new and learn from it. New situations and actions will activate your brain, allowing it to exercise its learning powers.
  • Try to be active with an interesting group of people. These can be your regular friends, or perhaps you could join a new group of people interested in similar things to you.
  • Break out of your routine. While it is important to have structure in your life, occasionally doing something radically different, or at an unusual time, can be invigorating. You need to pay attention to your thoughts and daily activities and find ways not to submit yourself to drudgery and taking things for granted.
  • Change your thoughts. Your thoughts affect your behaviour and mood. By changing your mind about the meaning of your emotion and experiences, you will generate a different attitude. Get inspired with powerful long-range goals. Powerful goals keep you inspired. You can’t feel bored at the same time when you are motivated to build a life.
  • Fire up your imagination. Create mental images to stimulate your thoughts. Visualize where you want to be and what you want to become. Use your imagination to experience a situation that you want to happen in your life. The wonderful thing about imagination is that you can create anything you wish to experience.
  • Talk to other people. If the person next to you is looking as bored as you are, strike up a conversation! Or call a friend and ask if they want to come over for a natter or a game of something. If you have an interesting, thought-provoking person to talk to, the time can pass by pretty quick. You might also learn something.
  • Be active! Go for a walk or do something physically outrageous. Write down 10 things you can do and 10 you can’t yet. Work through them whenever you’re bored.
  • Create curiosity. Create your curiosity on what’s happening around and inside you. You find life boring because of the repetition or a pattern of some habits or activities. Try to look at and do them differently and get yourself fascinated with other options and possibilities.
  • Find, read, hear, watch or do something exciting, stimulating and entertaining. You will probably be more fulfilled if you learn something: mindless media can be absorbing but ultimately not at all stimulating.
  • Find a new hobby, such as hiking, knitting, drawing, playing an instrument, cooking or photography. If you are particularly good at one skill, you could teach others to do it, and be helping others as well as avoiding boredom.
  • Avoid boring people and situations. Get away from people and situations that bore you. You can’t just walk out of a relationship but you can give yourself some space to do things that interest and motivate you.
  • Start a life list and accomplish a new thing every day, or week.
  • Try some of these ideas:
    • Volunteer at your local hospital or elderly home. This can give you a great feeling of satisfaction in helping other people.
    • Work for money. Ask for jobs to do around the house for money or even start a business like mowing people’s lawns or pet sitting. Pretty soon all that money will add up and you can buy something new that will keep you entertained.
    • Practice sports by yourself or with friends. You won’t be bored anymore and you’ll be able to show off your skills next game and feel proud of what you accomplished.
    • Take out your bike/skateboard/roller skates/scooter and get some exercise. Call up a friend and see if they want to come with you.
    • Walk to the mall and pay attention to the people there; what could they be thinking about? Who could they be talking to? What kind of people are they?
    • Bake something. Then you get to eat it afterwards!
    • Catch up on any homework or that you might still have to do. While this can seem like the last thing you want to do, it could be just the thing to get your brain whirring.
    • Rent some movies or listen to some music. But don’t get holed up indoors. Watch a movie you haven’t seen in a long time. Does it seem different now?
    • Journal your feelings and thoughts, either privately or on a blog. One of the ways to become aware of what triggers your boredom is to question yourself and take a hard look at it. Observe and write down your feelings and thoughts for a week and at the end of it, reflect on them. You could also start a blog online, if you feel that sharing your thoughts with other people could be beneficial.
    • Read and contribute to wikiHow. You might be surprised by how much you enjoy using your skills to inform other people. Or it might bore you even more: you won’t know until you try!
    • Reminisce about the good summers you used to have. You can write a novel about it. Be careful not to become overly nostalgic, however.
    • Get your friends round and play something like a board game you haven’t play with in a while or build something out of LEGO. If you haven’t had any child-like fun for a while, here’s your chance!
    • If you have something that you don’t need, sell it! That way, you can use the money that you earned to buy yourself something that will entertain you.
    • Think of places you would like to visit, and why. Then, if possible, visit them and see if they live up to your expectations!
  • Learn and practice mindfulness meditation. You suddenly become bored – impatient and restless. At this point, become aware of your feelings. Pay attention to the physical symptoms of your restlessness.
  • Explore the world and your mind. When boredom has been overcome, your mind will find many ways to keep your mind occupied. Reduced reported levels of boredom were considered reliable indicators of whether treated drug addicts would stay clean. Long distance drivers, who reported little boredom, played mental games, such as counting of passing objects. They were also safer drivers. Just self awareness can set you free. A freed mind can develop new skills and hobbies. Freed from boredom, your own pattern sensing mechanisms will find joy in the beauty of the world around you.

Tips

  • Many people eat to overcome boredom, but you don’t want to get carried away. Try using this as a chance to eat healthy foods, such as fruits or vegetables.
  • Remember, boredom is only a mindset, keep your mind occupied with something to do.

Warnings

  • Don’t be tempted to experiment with drugs or do anything illegal to pass the time. This is really about the worst idea possible for curing boredom.
  • Being bored continuously, in rare cases, may be a sign of depression. Get help immediately from a trusted adult if this is the case.

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Album Review: Big Sean – Finally Famous

Finally Famous

This is my second album review. The album that I’m reviewing right now is Big Sean’s debut LP “Finally Famous”. The album was released on June 28th, 2011. I’ve been waiting for the album to come out. I’ve been of this dude since his song “Getcha Some”. The appearances of the album are Chris Brown, Kanye West, John Legend, Chiddy Bang, The-Dream, Roscoe Dash, Wiz Khalifa, & Lupe Fiasco. I love this album. This album was the soundtrack of my life. The beats was tight, the lyrics and the flow was awesome. I loved it. My favorite tracks of the album “So Much More”, “Marvin & Chardonay”, “My Last”, “I Do It” and “High”. Best album ever.

My Favorite Top 20 Summer Songs Of 2011, Volume One [Summer 2011 Edition]

It’s summer. The best summer ever. Some songs for you to play in the season at dances, vacations, cookouts, road trips and etc. I know that I know those songs could be the soundtrack of your or mine summer. So here are my favorite top 20 summer songs of 2011 volume one. Here we go. You could add those songs on you playlist or your iPod and mp3 player.

20. Run The World (Girls) – Beyonce

19. She Ain’t You – Chris Brown

18. Dirty Dancer – Enrique Iglesias feat. Usher & Lil Wayne

17. Don’t Wanna Go Home – Jason Derulo

16. Who Says – Selena Gomez

15. Fast Lane – Bad Meets Evil (Eminem & Royce Da 5’9)

14. Motivation – Kelly Rowland feat. Lil Wayne

13. Go N Get It - Ace Hood

12. Marvin & Chardonnay – Big Sean feat. Kanye West & Roscoe Dash

11. Super Bass – Nicki Minaj feat. Ester Dean

10. Rolling In The Deep – Adele

9. Give Me Everything – Pitbull feat. Ne-Yo, Nayer, & Afrojack

8. Tupac Back – Meek Mill & Rick Ross

7. Best Thing I Never Had – Beyonce

6. I’m On One – DJ Khaled feat. Drake, Rick Ross, & Lil Wayne

5. Last Friday Night (T.G.I.F.) – Katy Perry

4. Ballin’ – Young Jeezy feat. Lil Wayne

3. Novacane – Frank Ocean

2. Racks – YC feat. Future

1. Lighters – Bad Meets Evil (Eminem & Royce Da 5’9) feat. Bruno Mars

What are yours?

My Top 20 Best Songs Of 2011 (So Far)

In the year of 2011 I hear a lots of songs of 2011. I don’t listen too much music. The half-way year is almost over. I’m bout to bring y’all my top 20 best songs of 2011 which means that my favorite songs or your favorites. Here we go.

20. Kreayshawn “Gucci Gucci”

19. LMFAO feat. Lauren Bennett & GoonRock “Party Rock Anthem”

18. Ace Hood feat. Rick Ross & Lil Wayne “Hustle Hard (Remix)”

17. Lykke Li “Get Some”

16. Chris Brown “She Ain’t You”

15. Tyler The Creator “Yonkers”

14. DJ Khaled feat. Drake, Lil Wayne, & Rick Ross ‘I’m On One”

13. Big Sean feat. Chris Brown “My Last”

12. Adele “Rolling In The Deep”

11. YC feat. Future “Racks”

10. Beyonce “Run The World (Girls)

9. Katy Perry feat. Kanye West “E.T. (Remix)”

8. Rihanna “Man Down”

7. Bad Meets Evil “Fast Lane”

6. Meek Mill & Rick Ross “Tupac Back”

5. Nicki Minaj “Super Bass”

4. Kelly Rowland feat. Lil Wayne “Motivation”

3. Beastie Boys “Make Some Noise”

2. Chris Brown feat. Busta Rhymes & Lil Wayne “Look At Me Now”

1. Wiz Khalifa  “Roll Up”

What’s your songs of 2011 so far?

Throwback Of The Day: A Tribe Called Quest – Check The Rhime (1991)

“Back in the days on the boulevard of Linden/We used to kick routines and the presence was fittin’”

This song right there is such a hip hop classic. I love this song. The song is called “Check The Rhime” by the legendary rap group A Tribe Called Quest. It was from their album “The Low End Theory” which was released in 1991.  I got the song on my iPod and “The Anthlogy” cd. That record became the most hip hop song ever. I still hear this in 2011.

Q-Tip and Phife had some good rhymes of this song like “You on point, Phife? All the time, Tip”, “Now’s here a funky introduction of how nice I am” and “Industry rule number 4080: Record company people are shady”. Those line were huge.

ATCQ are still the best rap group in the universe. I still listen to their stuff.